You can be INTENTIONAL in your healing. (Pt. 2)
Intentional healing can also be considered a mindset that drives one to heal well or not at all. The healing efforts are worth it because of the benefits. If one…
Intentional healing can also be considered a mindset that drives one to heal well or not at all. The healing efforts are worth it because of the benefits. If one…
When I think of intentional healing as it relates to betrayal trauma, I think of deliberate actions and plans one chooses in preparation to move on in one’s life healthily. …
If you want to be in a relationship with someone who knows you’re a recovering sex addict, honesty is not optional, it’s essential. This may seem like an obvious expectation, but…
When it comes to betrayal trauma healing, journaling isn’t just writing to be writing. Journaling is a way to explore your doubts, emotions, and pain. Thankfully, this tool can be…
Some sex addicts don’t understand why their partners repeatedly ask the same questions after receiving the truth through disclosure or confession. I mean, it was a big deal for you…
I will never stop saying healing from betrayal trauma is challenging and requires much work for the betrayed partner to heal well. It has been one of the most difficult…
When I first realized my husband was a sex addict, I bought many books, read all I could find online, and studied my materials from the groups I attended to…
Everyone told me the healing journey would take a lot of work which I interpreted as climbing a mountain without breaks, water, or rest. If hard work is what it…
*I refer to the addict as a male in this post for consistency. One of the most complex components of sex addiction I had to grasp was accepting sexaholism as…
This month’s Tool of the Month is Dance Aerobics. Before you roll your eyes or ask, seriously? Please hang in there with me before you conclude this blog entry is…
February is the month for celebrating love, which is a worthy recognition. However, I think it’s even more critical for those healing from betrayal trauma to celebrate self-love. After all,…
January 31st marks the first anniversary of Betrayed, Not Broken. I am so grateful for the readers, especially those who expressed appreciation for their validation. God’s grace and a dear…
What I hope for each of you this year! Welcome to 2023! How have your first two weeks been thus far? Whether or not you want it, time keeps moving,…
IS THIS BLOG FOR YOU? If a sex addict has betrayed you, whether you are still in the relationship or not, this blog may be for you. You may have…
My husband and I used to watch porn together occasionally when we dated in college, and I thought it was just a dumb and stupid thing all guys did, so…
What to consider when seeking a therapist: 1. Is the therapist specialized in working with partners of sex addicts or betrayal trauma? For me, I wanted a therapist who got…
A therapist skilled in working with partners of sex addicts can be essential to betrayal trauma healing. I constantly harp on the fact that we are dealing with betrayal trauma. …
You are not the addict’s accountability partner; say NO to “unhealthy dumps”!* *The addict is considered a male for simplicity, but I fully recognize that the addict can be a…
My goal in this blog entry is to share how I arrived at a definition of healthy sexuality that makes sense for me at this stage of my healing. Partners…
I know the title is a little vulgar, but when I first decided to write this blog, I said I would be honest. There is no other way I can…